When you have children, going through a divorce often becomes more about making sure they get through this transition smoothly rather than arguing with each other. For this reason, many parents no longer rely on the court system to decide their child custody matters for them.
Instead, they work together to create an agreement and parenting schedule that works best for their families. After all, no two Wyoming families are the same, and attempting to apply the same rules to everyone simply doesn’t work over time.
Creating a workable parenting schedule
Understanding what you need to do and knowing how to do it are often two separate issues. When it comes to creating a parenting schedule that best suits your family, consider the following:
- Take issues such as where you live, transportation and childcare into consideration.
- Don’t take the easy path. The point is to make sure that each parent receives as much time as possible with the children, and that may not always mean convenience.
- Take into account the school, extracurricular and other activities of the children. The schedule will need to accommodate these obligations.
- Even if you handled the lion’s share of the children’s daily routine, don’t discount the ability of the other parent to develop those skills. They have to find a way to work those things out, which could help further develop their relationship.
- Consider how the schedule will impact your children since they are the ones who will more than likely end up going back and forth. At the same time, you need to take any special needs your children have into consideration.
- Remember that, when it comes to your kids, it isn’t about punishing the other parent. Ultimately, you will punish the children as well.
- Keep in mind that the parenting schedule is for the children, not to sabotage or inconvenience your former spouse.
- Don’t let certain conditions out of your and the other parent’s control dictate the parenting schedule.
- Consider allowing for adjustments once you spend some time actually following the schedule. What might look good on paper may not work in reality.
Another thing you may want to consider is discussing the situation with the children. Get their input since they are the ones it affects the most. You and the other parent retain the final say, but at least your children get to put in their two cents.