The third party in a divorce

The third party in a divorce

On Behalf of | Nov 7, 2018 | Divorce, Firm News |

When parents in Wyoming divorce, there are not two parties to the separation; there are three — the wife, the husband and the children. All three parties are affected by the choices that are made and the change of life that takes place. Although there will undoubtedly be some stress that the children have to endure, with the right approach, the transition can be a smooth adjustment that can teach the children lessons that will help them throughout their lives. Divorce is a significant change, but it doesn’t have to be a negative experience.

The first step in making sure a child can deal positively with divorce is by helping them develop certain basic skills and qualities that will help them be resilient through not only divorce but also other life lessons. These qualities include having the ability to handle stress effectively, having confidence, being an asset to society, having a strong, positive character, having a sense of family and community, having strong coping skills and knowing how to make decisions. Parents must work with their children to develop these skills, as they are not acquired overnight and must be learned over time. Teaching by example is one of the best methods.

Second, as many routines as possible need to be maintained to give children a sense of normalcy. If Tuesday is normally pizza night, continue having Tuesday as pizza night. Also, parents should still maintain the same rules and expectations they followed previously. A unified parenting style allows children to know what is expected of them and creates needed structure.

Parents should always make sure they tell their children that the divorce is not their fault. Children often think the divorce is because of something bad they did, so this conversation must be had. Parents should be careful, however, to not belittle or blame their spouse. This can add to the emotional stress the children experience.

While the stress each spouse experiences while going through divorce can be overwhelming, parents must make sure to put the needs of their children first. Parents must work as a unified force, even when separated. An experienced Wyoming divorce attorney can assist parents by guiding them through the entire divorce process, reducing their stress, helping to promote an amicable divorce and therefore also reducing the stress on the children.