There is no getting around the fact that your divorce will have an impact on your children’s lives. However, divorce doesn’t necessarily have to mean an end to a happy lifestyle. A key factor in moving on in life is support, and in particular, support that keeps the lines of communication open, so your kids can share their feelings when they’re ready.
Studies show that various issues can have negative effects on children whose parents divorce. By and large, one of the most significant issues is parental conflict. If you and your ex tend to lock horns whenever you talk to each other, you may want to learn more about how this aspect of divorce can decrease children’s ability to cope.
Children internalize their feelings
Many children are afraid to say how they really feel regarding their parents’ divorce because they want to remain loyal to both parents. The following list includes information about parental conflict and how it can impede your children’s ability to adapt to a new lifestyle:
- Your children may feel like your divorce is their fault, especially if they hear you arguing about them.
- Some kids say they don’t talk about their feelings with their parents because it makes their parents argue even more.
- If you and your co-parent are always at odds, your children may feel caught between a rock and a hard place. They may worry that, if they show loyalty to the other parent, it will upset you.
- Children often feel stressed and helpless when their parents fight. They want to help but aren’t sure what, if anything, they can do to solve the problem.
- Evidence shows that children’s cortisol levels skyrocket when parents expose them to adult conflicts in divorce. Cortisol is a steroidal hormone that affects the body’s immune system and metabolism.
Like most good parents in Wyoming and beyond, you probably wish you could shield your children from all negative aspects related to your divorce. In reality, that is likely not possible. What you can do, however, is build a strong support network so your children know they have places to turn when they’re feeling down or need someone to talk to.
Dealing with problem issues
Divorce can be complex and difficult. If you stay closely connected to someone well-versed in state laws and glean as much wisdom from the experiences of your friends and family members who have gone through divorce in the past, you may be able to avoid complications.